МАДОУ "Детский сад № 59 комбинированного вида" Советский район г. Казань

Is your baby going to kindergarten? If so, you probably want the child to accept the changes in his life as calmly as possible, get along with the educators and other children, and go to the kindergarten every morning with joy and without whims.

But often parents do not behave quite correctly and unwittingly prevent the child from adapting to kindergarten.

Mistake # 1 - "Mom's Disappearance"

When a mother comes with her child to kindergarten for the first time, the baby is often relaxed and interested in what he sees. The fact is that he has not yet had the experience of being in the garden without his mother. That is why children often stay in kindergarten for the first day quite cheerfully, and on the second and third days they already go with resistance. As we know, it is easy to attract the attention of a small child with something new and interesting. Therefore, the baby boldly moves away from his mother and is carried away in the group with new toys and children. Most likely, he had already heard from his mother more than once that his mother would leave him in the group, but in his view, while his mother was waiting for him in the corridor. Or maybe he forgot that mom was going to leave.

And this is where the following happens. Mom is very glad that the child was carried away by the game, and quietly, so as not to "scare him", runs away without saying goodbye to the child and not informing him that he is leaving. Now, imagine what a small child feels, whose mother suddenly disappeared into an incomprehensible place, without saying goodbye, and it is not known when she will come and whether she will come at all. For a child, this is like getting lost in a huge supermarket. And even if 10 of the kindest people will calm down the baby and offer him sweets and toys, he will be terribly scared, overwhelmed by fear and anxiety. Even if you have told your child many times that he will be alone in the kindergarten, without a mother, never leave unnoticed.

The child has the feeling that now the mother can suddenly disappear at any moment of his life, without warning and without saying goodbye to him, that is, he can simply lose his mother. And he literally "sticks" to her, both psychologically and physically for many months, fearing to lose sight of her. In many cases, the kindergarten simply has to be postponed for at least six months, because the child falls into hysterics at the slightest mention of the kindergarten, not to mention going there.

Mistake # 2 - "Long stay"

Some parents believe that it is better to leave the child immediately for half a day or a whole day, so that he quickly gets used to the children and the caregiver. This is a mistake. A visit to the kindergarten should be started gradually. There are different visiting patterns recommended by psychologists. The general idea is this: first come and walk in the same playground where the group is walking, then bring the child to the group for 30 minutes - 1 hour during free play activities and wait for the child in the corridor and then pick it up. Gradually, the child gets used to the children, the teacher, and the environment. Then you can leave it alone for 1-2 hours, then from morning until lunchtime, then with lunch, then pick it up after the walk. After a while, leave for lunch and pick up, then leave for a nap and pick up. Then leave it for the whole day. There are no clear guidelines for how long each stage should take. You need to look at the child's well-being and at your maternal intuition.

Mistake number 3 - "Wrong daily routine"

Many parents do not think about how much the child's day regimen today corresponds to the daily regimen that will need to be adhered to when kindergarten begins. A child who is used to going to bed after 22.00 will find it extremely difficult to wake up at 7 in the morning. And in the kindergarten, as a rule, you need to get up very early. Remember how your baby feels when he hasn't got enough sleep? He rubs his eyes, is capricious, does not understand what he wants, becomes whiny. Children, whom their parents did not transfer to the kindergarten regime of the day, are immediately visible in the group in the morning in the first days. They rub their sleepy eyes, they are whiny and irritable, painfully perceive everything that happens around.

The way a child feels in the first days in kindergarten leaves an imprint on his entire subsequent relationship to this place. Remember the saying: You never get a second chance to make a first impression. " This fully applies to kindergarten. In order for the first experience of the child in kindergarten to be colored with positive colors, do not be too lazy to transfer your baby to the correct mode in advance. Then he will be able to wake up easily and go to the group in a good mood!

Mistake # 4 - "Quick fees"

This error partly overlaps with the previous one. Since the parents feel sorry for waking up the baby and want him to sleep as long as possible, they wake him up almost "end-to-end" by the time when it is already necessary to go to the kindergarten. As a result, the preparations are nervous, hasty, the mother does not have time to give the baby the attention and tenderness that he needs, especially when he is still basking in the bed. The child only hears: "Come on soon", "Come on faster", "We are late for kindergarten", "Then we will talk", etc. Often the baby in the morning still cannot think well and the mother gets irritated, raises her voice and the whole morning turns out to be chaotic and conflicting. Everyone's mood is spoiled, and the child goes to kindergarten in frustrated feelings, just like a mother who no longer has the moral strength to say some kind parting words.

Therefore, wake up yourself and wake up the baby in advance so that you have enough time for leisurely gatherings so that you can pay attention to the baby while he is in bed - to massage, stroke the legs and head, sing a song, tickle, kiss and other gentle words actions. All this is so important for a good mood for both of you! Go to the kindergarten in advance, too, with plenty of time, so that you do not get nervous on the way yourself and can set your child up in a positive way.