МАДОУ "Детский сад № 59 комбинированного вида" Советский район г. Казань

The child goes to kindergarten. Probably, there are no parents who would not want this stage to pass easily, calmly, so that the baby immediately goes to kindergarten with pleasure and without screaming. But this is quite rare. More often, children cry for the first few days or weeks, do not want to let their mother go. And this is not unusual. For a child, the beginning of kindergarten is stressful. And our task with you is to soften it so that it passes unnoticed and without unpleasant consequences. Therefore, we offer you 14 rules for parents to make the adaptation of the child as easy and fast as possible.

1. It is better to send a child to kindergarten in the warm season, when children spend most of their time on a walk. This will make it easier for the child to adapt, since outdoor games, a sandbox - everything is very similar to the usual conditions of his everyday life.

2. A week or two before the beginning of the visit to the kindergarten, accustom the child to the regime that is set in the garden and introduce into the child's diet the dishes that are prepared in the garden. Thus, there will be 2 less stressful moments. The child should get used to waking up in the morning (for example, at 7:00), sleeping in the afternoon from 13:00, having breakfast and lunch at about the same time as in the garden. Then it will be easier for him to get used to his conditions.

3. Self-service skills. Teach your baby how to dress, undress, eat with a spoon, wean him off disposable diapers. Of course, if you have to send your child to kindergarten at a very early age, then these skills may not yet be formed at a sufficient level. The main thing is that the child wants and tries to dress or eat on his own, and also be able to ask for help. Then he will feel more comfortable and confident among his peers, among whom there are those who know how to do it on their own.

4. Form a positive attitude towards the garden. This is a very important point! Never frighten a child with a kindergarten. Such phrases as: "Calm down, otherwise I will take you to the garden", "When you go to the garden, you will see!" are able to form in the child the mindset that it is bad in the garden and should be avoided by all means. Do not use phrases containing negativity for the child (“And in the garden you will have to eat this!”, “When you go to the kindergarten, and there you have to share with the children!”) Talk about the kindergarten, walk near it, watch the children on its playground, commenting on everything they saw.

5. Don't kid your child! Speak as you are. Do not praise the kindergarten too much so that later the child will not have disappointment. “Yes, you will come to the group, and there are many children. At first you will not know anyone, but the teacher will help you make friends, and you will have fun! ” "Yes, you will have to be in the garden without your mother, I will miss you too, but in the evening I will definitely come for you!" - This is the best way to talk to a child.

6. Teach the child to let go of the mother, to play independently with toys. Of course, not everyone has such an opportunity, but it's good if the child has a regular experience that the mother is absent for several hours, and the baby at this time stays with dad, grandmother, nanny ... Children who never parted with their mother, so the same, like those who had a bad experience of such a separation, can adapt to kindergarten longer.

7. Communication skills. Show your child how to share toys, how to ask for a toy, how to speak to an adult. These skills will be useful to him in a kindergarten group from the very first day. To prepare a child for kindergarten, attend early development groups, at least so that the child gets used to the child's team, to classes and the need to listen and hear an adult.

8. Communicate with caregivers respectfully and kindly. The child very closely monitors your emotions, reactions, behavior. Thus, he treats other people the way you treat them, he accepts your attitude. Therefore, having come to kindergarten for the first time, the child should feel and understand that the teacher is a “kind aunt”, because the mother is friendly with her, calm and benevolent.

9. Be sure to say goodbye, do not run away, leaving the child. This applies not only to kindergarten, but also to any moments of separation. It is much easier for a child to understand that mom is going and will soon return than where mom suddenly went. In the latter case, the children begin to think that their mother left them and will never return. Then tears begin, worries, tantrums, unwillingness to let mom go for a second.

10. Do not break habits at first, even bad ones (thumb sucking, nipples, etc.). If your baby sucks a nipple, a finger, or has some other habit, do not try to wean it from it in parallel with entering kindergarten. This adds more stress to your child. Wait for the child to adapt to the kindergarten, then take up the habits. Or better yet, wean you out of the habit in advance, even before you start kindergarten.

11. Give your child more attention, warmth, affection. Pay more attention, warmth, affection, hug more, demonstrate your love, spend more time together for a kid who started going to kindergarten. In this way, you compensate for that lack of mom during the day and once again convince that mom continues to love, and does not leave in the garden because she no longer loves.

12. If it is difficult for a child to part with his mother, let his father, grandmother or someone else take him to kindergarten. At least at first.

13. Remember, your child feels your anxiety! Therefore, standing at the door of the group and listening to what is happening there, walking around the garden and “looking through the windows” will not lead to anything good. A child who senses his mother's anxiety or fear begins to be afraid himself and think that something unpleasant may happen to him in the garden. For such a child, the adaptation period may not end for a very long time - until the mother calms down and releases her worries.

14. Accept the child's feelings. Eliminate notations, beliefs ... If a child cries in the garden, misses his mother, never forbid his feelings, do not try to immediately convince that these feelings are in vain. Just accept them, show that you understand that it's okay to feel that way. Say: "Yes, I see you really missed / missed!" "You were scared, sad, sad ...", "You want to cry, cry!" More details about the reflection and acceptance of children's feelings can be found in the book by Yu. B. Gippenreiter “Communicate with a child. How?"